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History proves it again, 'Communities divide while Religion unites'

2010-01-23T15:56:00.000+05:30

While writing this article, I am very cautious as it is related with the sentiments of the people. Some may feel happy and satisfied after reading it and may look forward to quench the thirst; others may get offended due to narrow mindedness and leave it midway. I request you to read it with an open mind and if you have more queries, you are most welcome for further discussions also. Thanks for your cooperation......

We often heard the word Religion every day. I was talking to a colleague when he told me that he prays Namaz as he belongs to Muslim Religion. I asked him about his understanding of the Religion and he was point blank except some rituals that he follows. I was surprised but again the bigger surprise arrives when we see Religion printed on the various forms we fill when joining an organization or institute. It is mostly asked on the forms as which religion do you belong to? And.... very proudly we write we are Hindu or Muslim or Christian or blah blah blah. There is a lot of confusion in society regarding Religion and Communities. To add to the surprise, these days the biggest fight amongst the people of the nations is for religion and communities. This seems to be the root cause behind all hatred amongst people world over. Western countries eyes Islam/Muslims as their enemy and the threat to the existence of the world and vice-versa. This fight amongst the communities is the costliest affair of the world as hundreds of millions have been spent on wars. Forget about the money or infrastructures, hundreds of thousands have paid for their lives for this particular community hatred. Nobody has any answer for that; nobody seems to have any solution for that also. Even worse, only a few think for the solution. When and how will this hatred end?

While discussing with a saint in New Delhi, I came to know about certain things as there is a huge difference between Religion and Communities. Communities may be defined as a group of interacting people following common rituals and customs in one or different parts of the world. Communities may be many and entirely different from each other. On the other hand, Religion is always one and is base and the foundation for all the communities. Religion is wider and Communities are narrow. In fact all communities are the part of the same religion. We can take an example to understand this. If religion is the house with a common door, communities are the rooms in it. A room is the part of the same house which is wider and spread all over the land. Different rooms may have different wall colours, entry doors, exit doors, living rules etc. Different rooms may have different width, length and height also. Different people may live in different rooms and still they are the part of the same home. Similarly, Different communities have different rituals and customs as followed by different people in different parts of the world, still it does not mean that they are the part of different religion. It is only the difference between the communities and not the difference between religions; in fact the word religions should not exist. Religion is always one, its ultimate aim is to help achieve all human beings their ultimate goal of life. Religions cannot be many. It is simply not possible. As all communities are based on scriptures and there are different rituals and customs described in different scriptures, yet there are same roots and foundation upon which the walls of the communities stand tall. We will understand Religion from a few clarifications based on authentic scriptures of all authentic communities. Some of the basic commonalities amongst different scriptures/communities are as under:

GOD is one.
GOD is light and in him there is no darkness at all.
GOD can be seen.
GOD cannot be seen by the two physical eyes of the human beings, HE can be seen through the third eye or the divine eye.
Third (Divine) eye is located in the centre of the brain and in the middle of the eyebrows.
Third eye is closed by birth and it needs a Perfect Master to open the third eye.
Perfect Master is always the one, who has seen GOD and has the power to show you GOD instantly on the spot, by opening your third eye.
Religion is the realization of GOD

From the above, we may conclude that different rituals and customs make different communities while religion is always the same and is the one. Communities were formed because of the particular relevance of that time and these were always need based. At different times, these communities could have been dissolved, merged or modified depending upon the need of the society. In fact all the Perfect Masters or Incarnations have done that in the past. In doing so, all Perfect Masters in the past have faced a strong criticism initially but now society salutes them. All Perfect Masters reminded human beings of religion while changing the then prevailing customs and rituals. They helped us know Religion and GOD. Unfortunately today also, we have forgotten Religion and remembered rituals and customs of the communities. A person may be called Religious if he is on the way to realize GOD. Again, the path of religion starts when someone has seen GOD. In today's world people do not care about realization of GOD but they do care about the rituals and customs which are not everlasting. Rituals and customs are the walls of the communities and they were formed to protect and strengthen human mind, body and soul. They were made as a shield to humans but unfortunately, today these are being used to show the difference between people and ultimately there is a huge fight amongst communities to widen the walls of the communities. They want to see more space being occupied in the rooms as it fetches money from the people also. Community leaders eyes people's pockets and of course more people in the community means more power worldwide. PURE SELFISHNESS!!! On the other hand, Religion teaches self less service. Communities divide whereas Religion unites. Religion makes human beings who otherwise are not much different from animals.

There may be many communities worldwide. All communities have their features, strengths and way of teachings through scriptures. All authentic scriptures guide us towards the same path. We can learn from all communities and scriptures. Hindu Community being the oldest and the root amongst all has the richest of knowledge in it. It has the vast information about Religion. There are numerous scriptures like Vedas, Purans, Upnishads etc which are rich in the religious info. The best thing about the ancient Hindu Scriptures is that these are very practical and based on eternal science, but the sad thing is that it is often misinterpreted. People who usually follow the rituals and customs of it are called Hindus, which is not right. Hindu scriptures are vast and wider than the mere rituals. The current circumstances have arrived because of the misinterpretation of the scriptures. In order to read any subject, one must understand two languages. One is the basic language e.g., Hindi, English, Arabic, Gurumukhi etc. and the other language is the technical language of the subject e.g. Periodic Table in Chemistry. Now, Periodic table has same alphabets of English but only a Chemistry student can understand the meaning behind it. Same words/letters may have different or more than one meaning in different subjects. One may know or learn the basic language from schools. To learn the technical religious language, one needs to find a specialist teacher and as far as the Religion is concerned, only a Perfect Master of the time can be a true teacher to help understand Religion.

So, Religion is the realization of GOD who is the source of the eternal bliss. We should not assume community same as Religion. And to know about Religion, we must have a perfect master in life without which we will fail to understand the meaning behind the words and further a Perfect Master help us know GOD, the practical way.

This awareness of difference between community and religion may help decrease the tension between people and nations. As more and more people look forward to be a religious person, the lesser they will be attached to the particular communities and slowly and gradually they may have a wider vision to make this world a better place to leave. Yes, I am talking about World Peace!!!

Now, there is a problem in spreading the awareness about difference between a community and religion, as it is written in English and many people do not understand English. May you help translate this article in different languages and forwarding it to the people of different countries?

Hindustan Times EXCLUSIVE - DJJS chief: Ready for dialogue, even at Akal Takht

2009-12-08T10:29:00.004+05:30

Expressing readiness for an "open-minded dialogue" with the Sikh clergy, controversial head of the Divya Jyoti Jagriti Sansthan (DJJS) Ashutosh Maharaj on Monday said he had no reservations on a meeting even at Akal Takht for an early end to the conflict in the interest of peace and stability in Punjab.

The dera head -- who is the eye of a fresh controversy following the violent clash between police and Sikh hardliners opposed to his sect on Saturday, which claimed one life -- said he was in favour of "neutralising" the hostility through open dialogue.

"From my side, there were never any differences. Still, if they have any, and the Sikh clergy agree for an open dialogue, I have no objections, and, as always, we are ready for reconciliation," Ashutosh Maharaj told Hindustan Times in an exclusive interview.

He said in 2002, he was "invited" for a clarification at Akal Takht, but was later disallowed on the plea that Hindus could not enter the temporal seat.
"Now it is for them to take a firm stand," he said.

The dera chief said he had made an attempt to resolve the issue in the past too, and submitted his institutional operations as well as literature to scrutiny by Akal Takht and Sikh scholars, but all efforts proved "futile" and "one-sided".

"We had sent our entire literature to Akal Takht with the undertaking that that if anything wrong or factual mistakes were found, we would make corrections or even stop the publication. But, they could not find a single mistake, and, moreover, never responded despite several reminders," he claimed.
"Not responding in a dialogue and being adamant on opposing DJJS was in itself objectionable and wrong on their part," he added.

Besides, he claimed, a threemember commission formed by then chief minister Capt Amarinder Singh had exam
"clean chit" after finding everything in accordance with the preaching of Guru Granth Sahib.

Asked if it was appropriate to visit Ludhiana despite warnings and opposition from Sikh radical groups, Ashutosh Maharaj said: "Constitutionally, it was right as DJJS had obtained all requisite permissions, sanctions and NOCs."

Yet, he added, DJJS never wanted to disturb the peace, and voluntarily cancelled the planned "shobha yatra" and the second day's programme.

"We operated within legal and moral codes of conduct and rule of the land. On the contrary, the warnings, behaviour and acts of radical groups were wrong, irrelevant, illegal and against the Constitution," he asserted.

Where does the solution lie to the conflicts between DJJS and Sikhs?
He said the sansthan was in conflict with "extremists", not Sikhs. "It is between us and the extremists who are working for the creation of `Khalistan'. I repeat, it is not Sikhs but fanatics who oppose us. Please do not defame the Sikhs for malicious acts of such extremists," he said.

Rejecting the allegations of being "disrespectful" to Sikh gurus and scriptures, Ashutosh Maharaj said had his discourses been against the gurus or the holy book, no Sikh would have associated with DJJS.

"But we have lakhs of Sikh followers... they are not insane.
There were lakhs of such Sikhs present at the congregation in Ludhiana on Saturday. Do you think they were there to listen to the condemnation of Guru Granth Sahib, as falsely propagated by radicals?" He said even during the Ludhiana congregation the radicals were invited for a faceto-face discussion, but they did not turn up. Would he want to hold more congregations in Punjab? The dera head has a counter-question, "When millions of youth have joined the mainstream of developmental activities and come out of the drug trap through activities and efforts of DJJS, then why should I stop doing the good work because of some unjustified threats and warnings?" `I abide by Guru Granth Sahib' Asked to respond to the allegation that he has described "living gurus" as superior to Guru Granth Sahib, Ashutosh Maharaj said it was an "utterly fallacious" statement attributed to him. "I respect and abide by Guru Granth Sahib. It is an ocean of knowledge and to understand it, we all need to dive deep into it, and should live our life by its values," he told HT.

On the other charge that he has sought to treat Sikhs as part of Hindus, the DJJS head said: "What I said was that the ancestors of Guru Sahibans and Sikhs were Hindus. In fact, Jathedar Puran Singh Ji had also agreed with this and mentioned in one of his articles that members of Bedi and Sodhi castes of Sikhs were descendents of Luv and Kush, the sons of Lord Ram.
This fact is also mentioned in Vichitra Natak of Dasam Granth".

Really Inspiring.....Jai Ho !!!

2009-07-18T08:25:00.000+05:30

Inspiring....Motivating....

Jai Ho !!!

The different forms of Anger and how to control that!!!

2009-01-15T18:37:00.000+05:30

Many of us will do anything to avoid anther's anger, yet may be quick to anger ourselves. Many of us dread anther's anger, yet continue to use our own anger as a way to control others. Let's take a deeper look at what generates our anger and how we can learn from it rather than be at the mercy of it.

The feeling 'anger' can come from two different places within us. Anger that comes from an adult, rational place can be called outrage. 'Outrage' is the feeling we have when confronted with injustice. Outrage mobilizes us to take appropriate action when harm is being done to ourselves, others, and the planet. Outrage is a positive emotion in that it moves us to action - to stop crime and violence, clean up the environment, and so on. Outrage comes from a principled place within, a place of integrity, caring and compassion.

Anger can also come from a fearful adolescent place within - from the part of us that fears being wrong, rejected, abandoned, or controlled by others, and feels intensely frustrated in the face of these feelings. This part of us fears failure, embarrassment, humiliation, disrespect, and helplessness over others and outcomes. When these fearful feelings are activated, this adolescent part, not wanting to feel helpless, may move into attacking or blaming anger as a way to attempt to control a person or a situation. 'Blaming Anger' is always indicative of some way we are not taking care of ourselves, not taking responsibility for our own feelings and needs. Instead of taking care of ourselves, we blame another for our feelings in an attempt to intimidate another to change so that we will feel safe.

Blaming anger creates many problems in relationships. No one likes to be blamed for anther's feelings. No one wants to be intimidated into taking responsibility for anther's needs. Blaming anger may generate blaming anger or resistance in the other person, which results in a power struggle. Or, the person at the other end of blaming anger may give in, doing what the angry person wants, but there is always a consequence in the relationship. The compliant person may learn to dislike and fear the angry person and find ways to passively resist or to disengage from the relationship.

When blaming anger comes up, the healthy option is neither to dump it on another in an attempt to control them, nor to squash and repress it. The healthy option is to learn from it. Our anger at another person or situation has much to teach us regarding personal responsibility for our own feelings and needs. As part of the inner bonding process that is shared here offer a three-part anger process that moves you out of feeling like a frustrated victim and into a sense of personal power.

The 'Anger Process' is a powerful way to release anger, as well as to learn from the source of the anger. Releasing your anger will work only when your intent in releasing it is to learn about what you are doing that is causing your angry feelings.

If you just want to use your anger to blame, control and justify your position, you will stay stuck in your anger. This three-part anger process moves you out of the victim-mode and into open-heartedness.

1. Imagine that the person you are angry at is sitting in front of you. Let your angry wounded child or adolescent self yell at him or her, saying in detail everything you wish you could actually say. Unleash your anger, pain and resentment until you have nothing more to say. You can scream and cry, pound a pillow, roll up a towel and beat the bed. (The reason you don't tell the person directly is because this kind of cathartic, no-holds-barred "anger dump" would be abusive to them.)

2. Now ask yourself who this person reminds you of in your past - your mother or father, a grandparent, a sibling? (It may be the same person. That is, you may be mad at your father now, and he is acting just like he did when you were little.) Now let your wounded self yell at the person from the past as thoroughly and energetically as in part one.

3. Finally, come back into the present and let your angry wounded self do the same thing with you expressing your anger, pain and resentment toward your adult self for your part in the situation or for treating yourself the way the people in parts one and two treated you. This brings the problem home to personal responsibility, opening the door to exploring your own behavior.

By doing the anger process instead of trying to control others with your anger, you de-escalate your frustration while learning about the real issue - how you are not taking care of yourself in the face of whatever another is doing or in the face of a difficult situation. Whenever anger comes up, you always have the choice to control or to learn.

Happy Learning !!!

Attitude : Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life.

2008-12-16T00:50:00.000+05:30

10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.
How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light, but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.
Let's use an example.
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened. What happens when the next will be determined by how you react.
You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over.
She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work.
You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye.

After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is " D".
You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "It's ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time." Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.
Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 Principle.
If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out, etc.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic?
Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? (A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off.) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive? Remember the 90/10 Principle, and do not worry about it.
You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.
The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger.
Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it.

Special Guidelines in Answering The Most Asked General Interview Questions.

2008-11-14T01:37:00.000+05:30

Everyone is nervous on interviews. If you simply allow yourself to feel nervous, you'll do much better. Remember also that it's difficult for the interviewer as well. In general, be upbeat and positive. Never be negative. Rehearse your answers and time them. Never talk for more than 3 minutes straight. Don't try to memorize answers word for word. Use the answers shown here as a guide only, and don't be afraid to include your own thoughts and words. To help you remember key concepts, jot down and review a few key words for each answer. Rehearse your answers frequently, and they will come to you naturally in interviews. Find out what people want, than show them how you can help them get it. Find out what an employer wants most in his or her ideal candidate, then show how you meet those qualifications. In other words, you must match your abilities, with the needs of the employer. You must sell what the buyer is buying. To do that, before you know what to emphasize in your answers, you must find out what the buyer is buying... what he is looking for. And the best way to do that is to ask a few questions yourself. You will see how to bring this off skillfully as you read the first two questions of this report. But regardless of how you accomplish it, you must remember this strategy above all: before blurting out your qualifications, you must get some idea of what the employer wants most. Once you know what he wants, you can then present your qualifications as the perfect “key” that fits the “lock” of that position. • Other important interview strategies: • Turn weaknesses into strengths (You'll see how to do this in a few moments.) • Think before you answer. A pause to collect your thoughts is a hallmark of a thoughtful person. As a daily exercise, practice being more optimistic. For example, try putting a positive spin on events and situations you would normally regard as negative. This is not meant to turn you into a Pollyanna, but to sharpen your selling skills. The best salespeople, as well as the best liked interview candidates, come off as being naturally optimistic, "can do" people. You will dramatically raise your level of attractiveness by daily practicing to be more optimistic. Be honest...never lie. Keep an interview diary. Right after each interview note what you did right, what could have gone a little better, and what steps you should take next with this contact. Then take those steps. Don't be like the 95% of humanity who say they will follow up on something, but never do. About these questions... You might feel that the following questions are “canned”, and that they will seldom match up with the exact way you are asked the questions in actual interviews. The questions and answers are designed to be as specific and realistic as possible. But no preparation can anticipate thousands of possible variations on these questions. What's important is that you thoroughly familiarize yourself with the main strategies behind each answer. And it will be invaluable to you if you commit to memory a few key words that let you instantly call to mind your best answer to the various questions. If you do this, and follow the principles of successful interviewing presented here, you're going to do very well. Following are the most of the most asked questions in interviews. Good luck...
Q1 Tell me about yourself.
Q2 What are your greatest strengths?
Q3 What are your greatest weaknesses?
Q4 Tell me about something you did – or failed to do – that you now feel a little ashamed of
Q5 Why are you leaving (or did you leave) this position?
Q6 The “Silent Treatment”
Q7 Why should I hire you?
Q8 Aren’t you overqualified for this position?
Q9 Where do you see yourself five years from now?
Q10 Describe your ideal company, location and job
Q11 Why do you want to work at our company?
Q12 What are your career options right now?
Q13 Why have you been out of work so long?
Q14 Tell me honestly about the strong points and weak points of your boss (company, management team, etc.)
Q15 What good books have you read lately?
Q16 Tell me about a situation when your work was criticized
Q17 What are your outside interest?
Q18 Tell me something negative you’ve heard about our company
Q19 How do you feel about reporting to a younger person (minority, woman, etc)?
Q20 How are you on on confidential matter?
Q21 Would you lie for the company?
Q22 Looking back, what would you do differently in your life?
Q23 Could you have done better in your last job?
Q24 Can you work under pressure?
Q25 What makes you angry?
Q26 Why aren’t you earning more money at this stage of your career?
Q27 Who has inspired you in your life and why?
Q28 What was the toughest decision you ever had to make?
Q29 Tell me about the most boring job you’ve ever had.
Q30 Have you been absent from work more than a few days in any previous position?
Q31 What changes would you make if you came on board?
Q32 I’m concerned that you don’t have as much experience as we’d like in
Q33 How do you feel about working nights and weekends?
Q34 Are you willing to relocate or travel?
Q35 Do you have the stomach to fire people? Have you had experience firing many people?
Q36 Why have you had so many jobs?
Q37 What do you see as the proper role/mission of… …a good (job title you’re seeking); …a good manager; …an executive in serving the community; …a leading company in our industry; etc.
Q38 What would you say to your boss if he’s crazy about an idea, but you think it stinks?
Q39 How could you have improved your career progress?
Q40 What would you do if a fellow executive on your own corporate level wasn’t pulling his/her weight…and this was hurting your department?
Q41 You’ve been with your firm a long time. Won’t it be hard switching to a new company?
Q42 May I contact your present employer for a reference?
Q43 Give me an example of your creativity (analytical skill…managing ability, etc.)
Q44 Where could you use some improvement?
Q45 What do you worry about?
Q46 How many hours a week do you normally work?
Q47 What’s the most difficult part of being a (job title)?
Q48 Why should I hire you from the outside when I could promote someone from within?
Q49 What was the toughest challenge you’ve ever faced?
Q50 Have you consider starting your own business?
Q51 What are your goals?
Q52 What do you for when you hire people?
Q53 Sell me this stapler…(this pencil…this clock…or some other object on interviewer’s desk).
Q54 “The Salary Question” – How much money do you want?
Q55 “The Opinion Question” – What do you think about …Abortion…The President…The Death Penalty…(or any other controversial subject)?
Q56 What was the toughest part of your last job?
Q57 How do you define success…and how do you measure up to your own definition?
Q58 If you won $10 million lottery, would you still work?
Q59 Looking back on your last position, have you done your best work?
Q60 On a scale of one to ten, rate me as an interviewer

Try to find your own answers, but if you stuck somewhere, ask it here !!!

BEST OF LUCK !!!
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Have The Happiest Diwali Ever !!!

2008-10-28T13:37:00.000+05:30

I'm writing this on the morning of Diwali, India's annual "Festival of Lights," one of the most celebrated festivals. Diwali celebrates Rama and Sita's return to Ayodhya after fourteen years of exile, Sita's abduction by Ravana and Rama's triumph over the demon king. By decree, the roads of the kingdom were strewn with "rows of lights" ("Deepavali" in Sanskrit) to welcome them home. Diwali symbolizes the conquest of evil by good, the ascendance of light in the midst of darkness and, on a deeper level, the return of the soul to its true kingdom of God from its "exile" in the land of the senses".

So, let's all celebrate Diwali by understanding the true meaning of it.

Please unwrap the greetings by letting the card load and then playing it.
Thank You.

Once again I Wish you a very fulfilling and safe Diwali !!!

Terrorism, Media and If Gandhi would have been alive he would have been wearing "The Yellow T-Shirt"

2008-10-02T10:54:00.000+05:30

Terrorism is a curse for any country. In this year of 2008 the entire India is facing the challenge of terrorism, the country is thinking of making new laws and passing new articles in the anti-terrorism law. Centeral Government is talking about tougher laws than POTA. Everyone is condemning terrorism but the incomplete work of terrorists is being completed by the electronic media. They are doing the job same of the terrorists.

When bomb blasts hit Delhi on last Saturday, the reaction of electronic media was awful. Their statements were to make people afraid as now it is the end of their world and sun will not rise again. And why not, this is the only way they can feed their family. For electronic Media this is the bread and butter for their family. If they will not spread the terror, who will watch the news channel, but is it okay for them to do it for their selfish reasons. Don’t they have humanity and compassion in them? Can someone ask them is this the meaning of Freedom to speech and Freedom of Media. The question is not that what they are showing, the tyranny is the way it is being displayed and the vocal tone they use to describe the story. The same thing can be said in a very smooth vocal tone which can serve the purpose of media and still people will not get afraid of it.

On the eve of Mehraully Bomb Blast, a radio channel was heard saying, people should not move out of homes and those who are not home please go home as soon as possible and at the end of the message the tune starts“ Sunte Rahiye....................... Radio Mir… - Radio Mir…, …Mir... Sun ne wale always Khush - always khush”. Can anyone ask them how long they can keep people happy with this attitude?

My brothers and sisters, please note the purpose of terrorists is not to kill the people, but to spread the terror. And the same thing is done by the electronic media but no one ever raised his/her voice against it. If media desires they can play the biggest role ever to encounter terrorists but they need to bring a lot of changes in their way of behaving at the crucial moments.

On one hand electronic media was advising people to stay at home, and on the other side their was a youth NGO, who didn’t care for their lives even and were helping people who were the victims of the bomb blasts. They are the volunteers of Yuva Pariwar Sewa Samiti(YPSS). YPSS has really shown the example of a true Indian.

They went to the sight of bomb blasts and picked people on stretchers to take them to the hospitals, which saved hundreds of lives. What if they would have been listening to the radio which urges people to go home for their safety? Many more would have died.

With not enough supporting staff in proportion to the wounded, the hospital authorities were relieved to have the Young, Enthusiastic and Active members of YPSS with them who handled the tragic situation in a Truly commendable manner.
YPSS proved its overwhelming participation by not only helping the injured to receive the medical aid but also soothing and comforting their wounded hearts with holy words of saints, telling them the real strength within and the vitality of realizing it, thus providing a powerful moral and spiritual boost up as well.

Undoubtedly it was a saga of a true, selfless and dedicated Humanitarian act.

I ask the person who was the radio jockey at that time, what if his family member would have been a victim of the bomb blast and everyone else would have been rushing to their homes and no one to take care of the wounded and victims.

Shame to those who are spreading terror for their selfish reasons!!!

Now by seeing the activities of YPSS, it can be said if Mahatma Gandhi would have been alive, he would have been serving people wearing "The Yellow T-Shirt".

Make The Most Of Yourself : The Urgent vs. the Important

2008-09-14T22:58:00.000+05:30

Of all the wisdom I have gained, one of the most important is the knowledge of the difference between Urgent and Important. We need to think what we are doing is the important one or the urgent one. Both are time and situation specific, sometimes we need to do important things but sometimes urgent things need to be prioritized.

We all know that time and health are two precious assets that we rarely recognize or appreciate until they have been depleted. As with health, time is the raw material of life. You can use it wisely, waste it, or even kill it.

To accomplish all we are capable of, we would need a hundred lifetimes. If we had forever in our mortal lives, there would be no need to set goals, plan effectively, or set priorities. We could squander our time and perhaps still manage to accomplish something, if only by chance. Yet in reality, we're given only this one life span on earth to do our best. We just live for once as we are now.

Each human being now living has exactly 168 hours per week. Scientists can't invent new minutes, and even the super rich can't buy more hours. Queen Elizabeth the First of

England

, the richest, most powerful woman on earth of her era, whispered these final words on her deathbed: "All my possessions for a moment of time!"
We worry about things we want to do - but can't - instead of doing the things we can do - but don't. How often have you said to yourself, "Where did the day go? I accomplished nothing," or "I can't even remember what I did yesterday"? That time is gone, and you never get it back.

Staring at the compelling distractions on a television screen is one of the major consumers of time. You can enjoy and benefit from the very best it has to offer in about seven total hours of viewing per week. But the average person spends more than thirty hours per week in a semi-stupor, escaping from the priorities and goals he or she never gets around to setting. The irony is that the people we are watching are having fun achieving their own goals, making money, having us look at them enjoying their careers.

Even so, time is amazingly fair and forgiving. No matter how much time you've wasted in the past, you still have an entire today. If you've just frittered away an hour procrastinating, you will still be given the next hour to start on priorities. Time management contains one great paradox: No one has enough time, and yet everyone has all there is. Time is not the problem; the problem is separating the urgent from the important.

Every decision we make has an "opportunity cost." Every decision forfeits all other opportunities we had before we made it. We can't be two places at the same time.

Even though we all are aware of the tradeoffs of "quality time vs. quantity time" in our relationships, we are not used to thinking specifically about how our decisions cost us other opportunities. Without this understanding, our decisions will often be unfocused and unrelated to helping us achieve our most important goals.

You may have heard the story about the analogy of the "circus juggler" to each of us as we try to balance our personal and professional priorities. I have heard the story repeated by many keynote speakers.
When the circus juggler drops a ball, he lets it bounce and picks it up on the next bounce without losing his rhythm or concentration. He keeps right on juggling. Many times we do the same thing. We lose our jobs, but get another one on the first or second bounce. We may drop the ball on a sale, an opportunity to move ahead, or in a relationship, and we either pick it up on the rebound or get a new one thrown in to replace what we just dropped.

However, some of the balls or priorities we juggle don't bounce. The more urgent priorities associated with self-imposed deadlines and workloads have more elasticity than the precious, delicate relationships which are as fragile as fine crystal. Balance involves distinguishing between the priorities we juggle that bounce from the ones labeled "loved ones," "health," and "moral character" that may shatter if we drop them.

The reason to list the benefits of reaching the goals is so that you can arrange them in the true order of importance to them and give them a sufficient amount of attention as they juggle them within their time constraints. Handle your priorities with care. Some of them just don't bounce!

To live a rich, balanced life we need to be more in conscious control of our habits and lifestyles. Actualized individuals have a regular exercise routine. They pay attention to nutrition, with lean source protein and fiber-based carbohydrates as their basic food choices. They relax through musical, cultural, artistic, family and of course spiritual activities. They get sufficient sleep and rest to meet the next day renewed and invigorated.

In addition to blocking periods of time for recreation and vacations, they also schedule large, uninterrupted periods of work on their most important projects. Contrary to popular notions, most books, works of art, invention, and musical compositions are created during uninterrupted time frames, not by a few lines, strokes, or notes every so often.
With your material, time, and energy resources allocated well, you should be able to use your innovative powers to focus on goal achievement. Effective priority management creates freedom. Freedom provides opportunity to make decisions. We make our decisions and our decisions, over time, make us.

Knowing the difference between Urgent and Important... that's what will allow us to live a rich and rewarding life. You may have thought your problem was "time starvation," when in truth, it was in the way you assigned priorities in your decision-making process. Have you allowed the urgent to crowd out the important?

Each day we will continue to encounter deadlines we must meet and "fires," not necessarily of our own making, we must put out. Endless urgent details will always beg for attention, time, and energy. What we seldom realize is that the really important things in our life don't make such strict demands on us, and therefore we usually assign them a lower priority.

All the important arenas in our life are there awaiting our decisions. But they don't beg us to give them our time. The local university doesn't call us to advance our education and improve our life skills.
I have never received a call or e-mail from the health club. The grocery clerks have never made me put back on the shelves the junk food I put in the cart, nor has a fast-food restaurant ever refused me a double cheeseburger and large fries because of being high in calories. The most important and most urgent thing as per current worldview and yet most ignored and most misunderstood one is that we never thought of giving some time to ourselves....only ourselves, where we can relax and be in the state of bliss ( Through the "Dhyaan" therapy called Brahm-Gyan or Self-Knowledge, which can be taken even in this era without any cost involved however, your true willingness is needed, If you already have got it, congratulations but if not, let us know and we would like to lead you to the path of peace and bliss, the path of self-knowledge. )
We never attended a presentation for how our country is doing in terms of growth, we never paid any attention to where are we heading day by day, moment by moment and yet we know which dress our friends wore in the office or college party.
And yes, We do receive hundreds of urgent phone messages and e-mails each week from people with deadlines.

You see, it's the easiest thing in the world to neglect the important and give in to the urgent. One of the greatest skills you can ever develop in your life is not only to tell the two apart, but to be able to assign the correct amount of time to each.

Beginning tomorrow, throughout the day, and every day thereafter, stop and ask yourself this question: "Is what I'm doing right now important to my health, well-being, and the ultimate mission in life?" Your affirmative answer will free you forever from the tyranny of what to do once you will realize the difference between Urgent and Important.

And if still you are in doubt that what you are doing is important or urgent or what needs to be done first as per your schedule........ Ask us by leaving a comment or mail us. Your id will be kept secret. For sure !!!

Best of Luck!!!

Divya Jyoti Jagriti Sansthan again proved to be the leader in self-less service to the victims of any natural calamity

2008-09-08T08:38:00.000+05:30

Twenty one days of natural fury, more than 6.5 lakh evacuations, hundreds of casualties and more than 2 million homeless in 16 districts of Bihar. Such a catastrophic juncture has reached due to breach in the 200 year old channel by the river Kosi. A look at affected areas tell the obvious tale of the submerged civilization. Every relief effort so far appears too small in the face of natural ferocity. Though millions have been evacuated, many await relief to knock at their doors.
Divya Jyoti Jagriti Sansthsan & its subsidiary Yuva Pariwar Sewa Samiti are running relief camps in the affected areas for the last 17 days. More than 100 volunteers are working day and night to ease rehabilitate those who are left with no other option than begging for mercy. Also, Bihar ashram of sansthan has arranged camps that are successful providing releif to more than 4 thousand sufferers.
In other gesture towards recuperation of humanity in the affected districts, the sansthan plans to send further relief to the victims in the form od food ( rice, pulses, milk, powder, rusks, biscuits etc. ), medical relief ( medicines worth Rs. 3 lakhs, 4 well qualified doctors and four paramedical staff), clothes and 50 more volunteers to facilitate to task. The contingent was flagged off today 6th September, 2008 at 9.30 a.m. by Mr. Surender Kumar, MLA and Jai Bhagwan Yadav, Councilor from Jatkhore Ashram of DJJS.
Where no solutions seems in sight, the Sansthan is striving hard to serve those orphaned in the entire episode of natural havoc in Bihar. With situation as horrible as food riots in the area, these little victims desperately need someone to take care of them. The Sansthan further plans to organize exclusive camps for those rendered without their parents.
Food and medicines are the primary needs of the whopping number of victims dying an unnatural death in the affected areas. Support- Either big or small, either cash or kind is more than required to carry on with the releif work uninterrupted. Those hearts cry for their fellowmen who are languishing in the submerged areas in Bihar can extend their support to in forms of Cheque & Demand Draft that can be drawn in favour of Divya Jyoti Jagriti Sansthan - Releif fund and can be posted at Divya Jyoti Jagriti Sansthan, Plot No. 3, Pocket OCF, Parwana Road, Pitampura Extn. Delhi-34. For any further information, kindly contact 9818283444, 9810454444 and 9910245463.
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Making of a president - the U.S. formulae

2008-08-03T17:55:00.000+05:30

There is curious anecdotal evidence that some of history’s most powerful leaders came from homes with absent fathers. And we are seeing this scenario acted out again in the lives of the current U.S. presidential candidates, Barack Obama and John McCain.

Senator Barack Obama, whose father left home in 1963, was only two years old. They were separated by continents. Obama was twenty-one years old when he was told in a telephone call that the father he never knew was killed in an automobile accident.

John McCain, son and grandson of navy officers, had a father who was a four star admiral. He was very loving but very busy and usually faraway.

Many fathers of the American presidents die young. And even the ones who live usually fall into the Obama-McCain category. “I was never there,” says George Herbert Walker Bush, “Barbara raised him.”

Three fathers of presidents died before their sons were even born.

Andrew Jackson

Rutherford B. Hayes

Bill Clinton

And many others died at an early age. James Garfield was one year old when his father died. Andrew Johnson was three, Herbert Hoover six, George Washington eleven, and Thomas Jefferson fourteen. Fully nineteen presidents lost their fathers before they reached age thirty. And only two fathers actually attended their sons’ inaugurations.

There is a very predictable family formula for strong leaders, good and bad. They have an attachment to the mother and an absent father. Hitler, Stalin, Mao Zedung all fit the pattern as neatly as Washington and Jefferson.

This is why presidential historians always wax eloquent on Mother’s Day. Curiously, most presidents, including the current occupant at 1600 Pennsylvania Avenue, are openly “mama’s boys.” It must make Sigmund Freud smile for one of his most enduring discoveries was how the perceived favorite child of a mother is empowered for life. But what is the father’s role in our presidents’ lives? There is a surprising, positive, answer to that question and it reveals much about the development of great leaders.

But first, consider the overwhelming evidence that mothers play a key role. Many recent presidents were literally named after their mothers but none of their many siblings.

Ronald Wilson Reagan named after his mother Nelle Wilson.

Richard Milhous Nixon named after his mother Hannah Nixon.

Lyndon Baines Johnson named after his mother Rebecca Baines.

John Fitzgerald Kennedy named after his mother Rose Fitzgerald.

Franklin Delano Roosevelt named after his mother Sarah Delano.

Woodrow Wilson named after his mother Janet Woodrow.

And on and on it goes back into history. Rutherford Birchard Hayes named after his mother Sophia Birchard. Of course it is not a perfect formula or Marvin Pierce Bush would be the president, not his older brother, George W. Bush, but it is common enough to defy any odds. “You are a Delano,” FDR’s mother, Sarah Delano used to tell him, “not a Roosevelt.”

“God bless my mother,” Abraham Lincoln supposedly said to his law partner William Herndon,” all I am or ever hope to be I owe to her.”

“I was a mama’s boy,” said Woodrow Wilson, “no question about it, but the best

of womanhood came to me through those apron strings.”

So what is going on here and what does it mean for Father’s Day? Not only are most presidents unabashed devotees to their mothers but, to add insult to injury, in most cases, the fathers were not even there.

For many years this dynamic nagged on me. Not only is it the template for leadership but it seemed to be the template for aggressive and criminal behavior. America’s prisons, for example, are full of young men who are also attached to their mothers and have an absent father. For many years I agreed with psychologists who theorized that both presidents and criminals drink from the same poison cup with vastly differing results. It was a strange tonic for good to the achieving presidents and a formula for terrible emotional damage to the criminal.

And then the puzzle was solved. The real question behind the problem is “ Fathers are absent from their families but what do the fathers of presidents and the fathers of criminals do differently with their lives?”

A quick study showed that the fathers of criminals are just absent. The fathers of presidents are absent but high achievers or sometimes heroes who expressed their interest or love to their sons. Even the poorest presidential father, Jacob Johnson, father to our seventeenth president, was a veritable legend in his home town.

According to Barack Obama, his father was the first African admitted to the University of Hawaii and he surprised the school by graduating first in his class. “He won another scholarship to pursue his PhD at Harvard, but not the money to take his new family with him - or so I was told. A separation occurred, and he returned to Africa to fulfill his promise to the continent.”

John McCain’s father and grandfather were both four star admirals. It was a first in American military history. And both were legendary, even heroic. But often gone.

The fathers of presidents were governors, senators, multi millionaires, generals, ambassadors, preachers and in two cases presidents themselves. Franklin Roosevelt’s father was seeking to build the first canal to link the Atlantic and Pacific Oceans.

There is a compelling moral to the story.

If a father only spends his life serving his sons, reducing himself to the role of a taxi driver, running them to little league and soccer practice and math camp, all to show that they are a loving father willing to sacrifice their own advancement to give their sons an opportunity they never had, don’t expect the sons to grow up to be major league ball players or brilliant engineers. They will likely grow up to be taxi drivers just like their fathers, driving their sons all over suburbia as well.

On the other hand, if a father does something great with his life, achieves something significant or heroic, then, even if he is absent, his son will likely follow and may even do better, just to rub it in.

There is now much evidence that the role of the father, even his absence, is just as important in shaping leaders and presidents as is the role of the mother. Affirmed and empowered by their mother’s love but also hurt and frustrated by their father’s absence, a leader, including most American presidents, will strive to prove their value and worth with their great achievements.

(Selected quotes taken from The Raising of President and All the Presidents’ Children by Doug Wead, Atria Books.)

What the U.S. president nominees discuss that the Indian politicians are absolutely unaware of ? - Part 1 ( The use of Technology )

2008-08-02T08:34:00.000+05:30

( I read a few articles some moments ago about how the U.S. president nominees differ with each other on some ideas and I was amazed when I compared that with the Indian Politics. I found in the U.S., their debates are totally different from what we do have in India. We in India see politicians fighting like uncivilized and illiterate people over the issues which have nothing to do with the overall growth of the country. We in India do fight for temple or mosque but we are unaware where we are at the globe as far as our growth is concerned. Riots can let a particular party win in the forthcoming elections but it will make the country ashamed of on the international front. The thought process of our country's leaders is still just to attract votes and to remain in power anyhow, by any means. On the other hand when I saw U.S. president nominees debating and being compared to each other, it is totally a different mindset with altogether different thoughts. Here, I am presenting some of the excerpts from many articles which I found worth sharing with you... and the series will continue in the later posts and issues as well.)

Whereas in India most of the times at elections, parties do not fortell or declare their PM nominee, In the U.S. when people of America choose their President, they want to know even the tech. policies of the nominees as well.

Here, I am presenting some of the technical know how and thoughts of the U.S. President nominees, about the technology and use of the technology for the overall development.

John McCain has said this is a fact that he rarely uses e-mail or the Internet. During the Republican primary, he referred to himself as computer illiterate. And earlier this month, he told The New York Times that he depends on his wife and staff to show him Web sites. McCain explained he didn't feel the need to send e-mails. E-mails do have a way of sometimes leading to misunderstandings. McCain prefers to use the phone. But Still..............................

McCain has proposed a program to provide tax and financial benefits for companies that provide broadband services to low-income and rural users, his camp says says. "It may require some government assistance, either through financial subsidy policy or through other kinds of creative tools, like community or municipal broadband services."

While pointing fingers on Obama’s comment that “as president, he would appoint a technology czar” the camp of Mccain says McCain's vision goes beyond having "a top tech guy sitting over at the White House." The real key for McCain, is to hire more people with technology experience throughout the government who can envision technology solutions for education, health care, homeland security and other issues.

McCain, he says, hopes to create momentum in all branches of government to foster "a range of e-government initiatives." That would include making more government services available online and hiring people with substantial tech experience to "populate throughout the government.

On the other hand, Obama has been seen walking with his BlackBerry — so absorbed you worry he might bump into something. Today, Obama has more than a million friends on Facebook. But 10 years ago, he was just a state legislator in Illinois with a single cell phone. Earlier, some years back, technology made Obama's life more complicated, but ultimately, when he was pushed into the Internet age and into the BlackBerry age, he resisted slightly. But he realized the benefit and the necessity. The Obama for Senate campaign had a blog, which was relatively new in politics, though it was mostly written by a staffer.

Again, technology was a tool.

Obama has called for the creation of a new Cabinet-level position: a "chief technology officer" who would make sure the federal government imports the best technology tools from the private sector Making sure that government agencies have cutting-edge technology would be one part of the technology czar's responsibilities. That person also would be charged with making sure government is more transparent and that there is outreach to the public to get the "best ideas on how we can govern the country," Obama's philosophy on technology is "more activist" than that of GOP presidential candidate John McCain..

Obama understands that the future of the economy depends to a large extent on how we can ensure that we have access to technology and we empower people to use it.

Obama supported a Clinton administration plan to provide all schoolchildren access to the Internet at school; whereas McCain opposed it. Obama and McCain also differ when it comes to the universal service fund — a long-standing mechanism for providing phone service to rural areas that Obama "embraces." It's about making sure that people in rural areas can participate in the information age.

So, people of the great country India are still awaiting the day when the talk and the action between top level 'office chairs' would be for the overall growth of the country than to be just for the sake of a particular community or the party herself...........

Ahmedabad Blasts, who do YOU blame ?

2008-07-29T05:07:00.000+05:30

Heard the term 'Nero fiddles while Rome burns' ? Well, replace Nero with the Indian Politicians and Rome with an India that is descending into chaos. While the Indian politicians play games with the lives of the people and horse trade between themselves to somehow, anyhow, at any cost, keep themselves in power. This year Jaipur, then Bangalore and now Ahmedabad.. I heard the Home minister Shivraj Patil say something strange on TV like " this is not time to blame the police, or the government." Excuse me sir ! But when you lose your loved ones, who are you going to blame ? Who is in charge here ? Someone must teach the politicians that with power comes RESPONSIBILITY. Well, I guess for our politicians power means not responsibility, but cash. OK, lets hear everyone's voices here - who do YOU blame ?

Toll in Ahmedabad serial blasts rises to 46, Monetary compensation announced, People ask can money replace the lost lives ?

2008-07-28T06:25:00.000+05:30

The Army staged flag marches in sensitive areas here on Sunday to restore a sense of security and confidence among the people, as the death toll in Saturday’s terror attack went up to 46.

Responding to an appeal from the police, the people in Surat by and large stayed indoors despite it being a Sunday. This was to avoid large gatherings that could be easy targets for terrorists.

The State government has announced compensation of Rs.5 lakh each to the next of kin of those killed in the Ahmedabad blasts and Rs. 50,000 to each of those injured.The Chief Minister assured the injured that the best possible treatment would be given.He appealed to the people to keep peace and cooperate with the authorities to maintain law and order. Governor Nawal Kishore Sharma said some divisive forces were trying to disrupt peace and tranquillity.

People of the nation have raised this question to the leaders of the country that whether money can replace the lost lives. People are furious about the fact that the politicians can pay to show some sympathy but can't take any action too avoid these kind of circumstance. There are reports that center agencies intimitated the states about the possible incidence before that happened. So, the question is if crores and crores can be paid as compensation and treatment, can't there be any prevention of the events ?

NOW, THE PEOPLE OF THE NATION ARE ASKING FOR AN ANSWER TO THIS QUESTION FROM THE LEADERS OF THE NATION

" HOW LONG WILL IT KEEP HAPPENING ? "

IF YOU ARE IN U.S. AND WANT YOUR CHILD TO BE PRESIDENT ? RULE # 1 .................BE A BAD DAD !!!

2008-07-28T06:22:00.000+05:30

( In U.S.A. a new sensational book has been uncovered and is written by the famous best selling author Doug Wead. The name of the book is 'The raising of a President'. Doug Wead has remained as a personal adviser to the president Bush Sr. and has been closely associated with many others. In his book he reveals the facts that are far more astonishing and surprising. As he has worked with many Presidents closely, he got some of the facts tabled. )

Augustine Washington expected great things from his first-born son, and he gave him a fine education, sent him to Europe and set him up with an estate later called Mount Vernon.
Washington's son, of course, was the father the U.S.. But not that one - that was Lawrence Washington. By the time George came around, Pa Washington couldn't much be bothered; George got only a year of schooling, and wasn't even trained in the family iron works.
There's a Father's Day lesson in this, for any dad determined to launch a son into the Oval Office. Forget the pep talks and character-building homilies - paternal neglect or absence are a much better bet.
That's the verdict of presidential historian Doug Wead, the author of "The Raising of a President," a study of the parents of the country's 43 chief executives. As he researched the book, a distinct pattern emerged - strong, doting mothers and distant fathers.
"The most striking thing is the absence of the father," says Wead, a former aide to George H.W. Bush. "The presidents tend to be mama's boys. They're empowered by their mothers and rejected by the father that wasn't there, and they go off and do great things to win the approval of this distant figure who rejected them either through death or through absence. You just see it constantly."
Textbook cases include Andrew Jackson, whose father died before he was born (making him one of 19 presidents whose father died before they reached 30), Ulysses Grant, whose father offered him little other than contempt until he became president, and Franklin Delano Roosevelt, whose father "almost literally abandoned him - he basically said to his wife, this one's yours," says Wead.
Roosevelt is one of a statistically improbable number of presidents who bear their mother's name, notes Wead, including Lyndon Baines Johnson (Rebecca Baines), John Fitzgerald Kennedy (Rose Fitzgerald), Richard Millhouse Nixon (Hannah Millhouse), Woodrow Wilson (Janet Woodrow), and Ronald Wilson Reagan (Nelly Wilson).
In this sense, both Barack Obama and John McCain are classic presidential material. While their individual experiences were very different - Obama pined for a father who abandoned his family when Barack was two, while McCain's four-star-admiral father was a looming presence whom he hugely admired - the common thread is that neither was present.

"McCain certainly admired his father, but he was absent much of the time," says Stanley Renshon, a professor of political science at CUNY and a psychoanalyst, who's written books on both Clinton and George W. Bush, the latter titled "In His Father's Shadow."
"The requirement of being in the military is that you're often away, especially if there's a war. So there's a tension there."
For a parallel, look no further than George W. Bush, whose powerful, successful father has freely admitted that wife Barbara raised W. singlehandedly while he was off tending to business. Meanwhile, Obama finds a mirror in Bill Clinton, whose father died before he was born.
"With Clinton there was the search, the looking back to try to recover this mythical figure in some way, and it's absolutely crystal clear in Obama's case," says Renshon. "He literally spends his whole first book on the quest for who his father was."
Harold I. Gullan, the author "First Fathers: The Men Who Inspired Our Presidents," as well as a separate book on presidents' mothers, concurs with Wead that generally speaking, "Mothers are stronger influences." (He also notes that many presidents' were their mother's clear favorite - accounting for why "if you look at the siblings, they always have some idiot brother" a la Roger Clinton or Billy Carter).
Gullan, though, sees presidential fathers as having a more direct influence than the Freudian one Wead notes. The most notable common thread he sees is that they tend to be "restless, ambitious entrepreneurs," with "ambition for their son to do well."
Classic examples include Woodrow Wilson's father, who "put immense pressures on him," Joseph Kennedy, who was determined to make one of his sons the first Irish Catholic president (though his eldest, Joe, was the chosen one, until he died young), and both William Howard Taft and John Quincy Adams - whose excessive heft and gaunt frame, respectively, can be directly attributed to "the tremendous pressures put on them by their parents to excel," says Gullan.
Wead and Gullan agree that presidential dads tend to be accomplished in some way, even if they were failures in others - like Andrew Johnson's father, who was poor, but considered a great local hero for having saved a boatful of prominent citizens from drowning.
As for the worst presidential dad of all time, Gullan and Wead are in agreement: Thomas Lincoln, a "dull, ignorant man," who showered Abraham with verbal and physical abuse. Of course, if his father had lightened up, Lincoln might never have been instilled with the drive to become the country's greatest president. As Wead puts it, assembling his book, "I developed a real respect for Freud."

WHAT DID ROBERT SAY ??? I MEAN ROBERT FROST !!!

2008-07-26T03:25:00.000+05:30

This poem of Robert Frost seems to be linked with our inner world more than our outer world. Many teachers in the school days teach this story as an inspirational story. However, only a few of the people knows the depth of these four lines. It may take years (ERA) for someone to understand the true and in depth meaning of it. It can not be understood until and unless it is taught by a perfect master and then observed and seen by the self.
In the poem, the poet talks about illusion. He says worldly affairs seem to be very attractive. Illusion is very attractive, it has a lot of depth means an unintelligent person can not understand it and third it leads to horrible darkness.
However in the second line it is clear that the human being has promised to GOD before he came on the planet earth. Though many people either do not remember or do not want to remember after being involved and attached in this illusive world.
In the third line the poet says that he has to go inside his own until a lot of distance till the time unstoppable Death comes.

And in the end at the fourth line, he reassures his commitment towards the promise, he made to GOD.

SUMMARY IN SHORT : EACH AND EVERY ONE SHOULD PROSPER FOR THE PATH OF TRUTH, BLISS OR THE PATH OF IMMENSE LIGHT. THERE MAY BE HURDLES IN BETWEEN, BUT BE FOCUSED AND CONTINUE MOVING FAST AND DO NOT STOP TILL THE TIME YOUR FINAL DESTINATION ARRIVES.